Real Talk How Do I Tell My Partner That I Want to Be Friends With My Ex

Real Talk How Do I Tell My Partner That I Want to Be Friends With My Ex Is it possible to truly be friends with an ex? One woman on Fairygodboss thinks so but herbei husband does not. She wrote into the FGB Community to ask about ex-boyfriend etiquette.She went on to elaborate on the situation, explaining that she and her ex have been friends for years now, have mutual friends in common, and landsee each other at events. Her husband has even met him. Recently, her ex has been going through a difficult time, and she wants to be there for him.It made me realize that I want to be this kind of friend to him. I think weve demonstrated that our personal, non-romantic connection stands the test of time, so I feel qualified and almost compelled to try to support him. In general, I want to reconnect in a mora substantial way. We made plans to meet up one-on-one, she wrote.Other FGBers responded to the womans post to offer advice and share similar situations theyve been in. Ultimately, four k ey pieces of advice emerged.1. For starters, women in the FGB Community advised that the poster be transparent with her freund.We agree. It is definitely possible to be friends with an ex, although the friendship will most likely be more complicated than most. While its natural to want to be there for a friend, a partners feelings are also deserving of respect. We agree with this commenter, who suggests being open about conversations with any ex. Being transparent will reassure an S.O. that theres nothing to hide, and hopefully a scenario can be arrived at in which no one is left feeling uncomfortable.2. She should also set some boundaries with her ex.Another FGBer reached out to say she was in a similar situation, but with the roles reversed. If you do end up meeting with your ex, she said, you should set expectations for the meet-up. Theres no need to be accusatory and make the person feel like you suspect them of having ulterior motives, but you can ensure no boundaries will be c rossed by setting them in the first place. And your S.O. can even help you draft the boundaries, which can alleviate some of the stress they may be experiencing.3. It would be helpful to remind her partner of her intentions, too.While its important for ones partner feel comfortable with the situation, it is also imperative to stress the trust they already have in you. Even if an ex ends up having problematic motives behind a meet-up, that doesnt mean you do, as this FGBer pointed out. In this case, the poster is happily married and simply a compassionate person who wishes to help those she cares about. And there is nothing wrong with that. Its best that she choose a casual, non-date-y location to meet for this, like a coffee shop in the daytime and not a candlelit dinner. Keeping the conversation on her exs situation and not on shared history, as other FGBers pointed out, is also wise. And, as mentioned before, so is setting expectations beforehand. Keeping a spouse in-the-know and making sure everyone involved is aware of the goal of the meet-up and its true purpose are crucial.4. And if she feels uncomfortable at any point in time, she shouldnt be afraid to leave.Lastly, the poster should make sure she never feels as though boundaries have been crossed. Safety and comfort level are the most important factors in this of all, and any ex should be respectful of both.Have a relationship (or career, or general life) question youd love some feedback on? Post it in the Fairygodboss Community to receive advice from FGB women everywhere.